A dynamic new story about how babies make their way in the world—and how grown-ups have tried to make sense of these tiny inscrutable beings.

As a new parent, Nicholas Day—that's me—had some basic but confounding questions: Why does my son find the straitjacket of his swaddling blanket comforting and not terrifying? How can he never meet a developmental norm and still be OK? And when will he stop sucking my finger? So he went digging for answers. They were not what he expected.

Drawing on a wealth of perspectives—scientific, historical, cross-cultural, personal—Baby Meets World is organized around the mundane activities that dominate the life of an infant: sucking, smiling, touching, toddling. From these everyday activities, Day weaves together an account that is anything but ordinary: a fresh, surprising story, both weird and wondrous, about our first experience of the world.

Part hidden history of parenthood, part secret lives of babies, Baby Meets World steps back from the moment-to-moment chaos of babydom. It allows readers to see infancy anew in all its strangeness and splendor.

Some nice things that people have said about it:

Nicholas Day has birthed a perfect book:  expertly researched, beautifully written, wise, warm, honest, funny. What makes it fascinating is the same thing that makes it reassuring: When it comes to caring for babies, there has never been one right way to do it, but dozens—contradictory, bizarre (goat wet nurses!), hilarious in retrospect but always well-meant. If you have a baby, expect a baby, were or still are a baby, this is a book for you.

Mary Roach, author of Stiff and Gulp

In Baby Meets World, Nicholas Day brings us the book about infants that parents should have had all along: smart, funny, and tender, with just the right amount of edge. Engaging and enlightening, it belongs in the diaper bag of every new mom and dad.

Annie Murphy Paul, author of Origins: How the Nine Months Before Birth Shape the Rest of Our Lives

Why this baby book is different:

Many books about infant development are instruction manuals for parents. This book is the opposite: It tells readers how infants develop, or how we now think they develop, while showing how models for good parenting have varied wildly over the years, even within the recent past. Instead of offering advice, Baby Meets World highlights how numerous convictions about infants held by experts and parents have turned out to be misguided, comic, harmful, or just really, really weird. By telling these stories from the back pages of parenting, the book fosters some healthy skepticism about childrearing advice. And by illustrating the many different ways babies have been and are raised, it will make clear that there’s no single right way of doing things. It’ll allow readers some breathing room.

At least, that’s the theory.

What writing the book was like:

Deeply strange. I spent my mornings writing, my afternoons with my son. These were radically different experiences, and not just because there was more screaming when I was alone writing. In the morning I learned about the many different models for infancy and parenthood out there, and how we often mistakenly believe that such-and-such practice is absolutely necessary or that such-and-such practice amounts to child abuse. In the afternoons, hanging out with my son and talking to other parents, I heard many of these same beliefs uttered with complete conviction. I heard myself uttering some of them: the me who was writing and the me who was parentingsometimes I had to introduce these two very different people to each other. An example of the clash between the mornings and the afternoons: in the Toddle chapter, I talk about how, contrary to what many seemingly well-informed people will tell you, whether your child crawls or not does not matter. Just after I finished writing it, I got an email from a friend with a young child that began, “Hey, I just learned from a teacher at our Montessori school that crawling is crucial for mathematical ability…”

It is amazing how susceptible you are, as a new parent, to what other people have said about babiesand what they have said about how you, the new parent, should behave. When I was writing about the science of touch in infancyeven when I was writing about half-baked beliefs about touch in infancyI found it almost impossible to be away from my child. Even when you don't believe what people are telling you, it sinks in. That's the plight of the new parent. Think of Baby Meets World as a crude lifeline, something to pull you out of the quicksand.